Thank you! This was just my observation, but surprisingly, it has been true in many of the other cities I've lived in (LA, ATL, etc.). I don't think it's impossible to find your partner there, you just have to be more selective in your approach.
though I met my husband in DC, this was my experience prior to him. completely. and the experience of a lot of my close friends. but I did learn that all the things people say men need before settling down is really what we tell ourselves in order to keep hope alive. there’s no magic. they is or they ain’t.
Thank you for sharing that! I think you're absolutely right. I honestly think most men are very clear on what they want and what they have capacity for, and oftentimes we just dismiss what our gut knows to be true out of our own selfish desires. I'd love to hear more about your story of how you and your husband met and what made that experience different than the ones you had prior to him!
The line about ambition not canceling out ambivalence really lands. Back when I was navigating similar situations, took me way too long to realize someone showing up consistently doesnt mean theyre actually choosing to build something. Its wild how financial stablity can mask emotional unavailability so well.
It really is! It's interesting because I've had convos with girlfriends who feel like men who are more stable and have certain jobs and have reached financial goals are more likely to settle down. I don't necessarily disagree, because I do think that plays a role, but I also think there's more that has to be taken into consideration when discussing long-term partnerships. Thank you for reading!
Love, love, love! Well, I don't love the lack of intentionality or the confusion that is being outside sometimes, but I'm happy that you're always guided by your standards. Mi reina, thank you for blessing us with your truths. Beautifully written as always <3
Thank you, my dear! The dating scene is quite...interesting lol. But I do believe that the right partner exists for us all, we just have to be quick to identify who's ready and who's not!
Omg !! This is a perfect way to describe the current DMV dating climate
Thank you! This was just my observation, but surprisingly, it has been true in many of the other cities I've lived in (LA, ATL, etc.). I don't think it's impossible to find your partner there, you just have to be more selective in your approach.
though I met my husband in DC, this was my experience prior to him. completely. and the experience of a lot of my close friends. but I did learn that all the things people say men need before settling down is really what we tell ourselves in order to keep hope alive. there’s no magic. they is or they ain’t.
Thank you for sharing that! I think you're absolutely right. I honestly think most men are very clear on what they want and what they have capacity for, and oftentimes we just dismiss what our gut knows to be true out of our own selfish desires. I'd love to hear more about your story of how you and your husband met and what made that experience different than the ones you had prior to him!
The line about ambition not canceling out ambivalence really lands. Back when I was navigating similar situations, took me way too long to realize someone showing up consistently doesnt mean theyre actually choosing to build something. Its wild how financial stablity can mask emotional unavailability so well.
It really is! It's interesting because I've had convos with girlfriends who feel like men who are more stable and have certain jobs and have reached financial goals are more likely to settle down. I don't necessarily disagree, because I do think that plays a role, but I also think there's more that has to be taken into consideration when discussing long-term partnerships. Thank you for reading!
Love, love, love! Well, I don't love the lack of intentionality or the confusion that is being outside sometimes, but I'm happy that you're always guided by your standards. Mi reina, thank you for blessing us with your truths. Beautifully written as always <3
Thank you, my dear! The dating scene is quite...interesting lol. But I do believe that the right partner exists for us all, we just have to be quick to identify who's ready and who's not!
“DC is many things, but it’s not a panacea for a healthy partnership. Abundance doesn’t replace intention. It just disguises its absence.” A bar!!